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So, my dad just died two weeks ago. Not my BIRTH CERTIFICATE FATHER, my DAD. The man I could not connect with, the man who did everything...
Apr 16, 20243 min read
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Grief
So, my dad just died two weeks ago. Not my BIRTH CERTIFICATE FATHER, my DAD. The man I could not connect with, the man who did everything...
Apr 16, 20243 min read
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Dear Mental Health Providers, (working with NPEs)
Dear Mental Health Providers, As a mental health provider myself, I know it is a very busy world out there for us right now. This is the...
Jan 1, 20233 min read
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End of an era
A person who can keep a secret may be wise, but they are not half as wise as a person with no secrets to keep. – Edgar Watson Howe...
Jul 17, 20222 min read
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Ode to the “fathers”
Fatherhood has changed me completely. – Mick Hucknall Join a clandestine life, often less than ideal Hunted by the qualm of pretending...
May 2, 20221 min read
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Telling my Dad (BCF)…
When I first learned I was an NPE, I was determined to never tell my dad (bcf) for several reasons. From my perspective, he was aging...
Mar 4, 20225 min read
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Moral issues
There is something immoral about abandoning your common sense in matters of social importance. ― A.E. Samaan My mother passed away in...
Dec 12, 20214 min read
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Living with Rejection
Not everyone will have this experience and for that I am grateful. For those who have felt the sting of rejection from family of origin...
Nov 19, 20214 min read
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DNA truth: compare and contrast
No legacy is so rich as honesty. - William Shakespeare A quarter century ago, some close family friends adopted a baby girl from an Asian...
Nov 4, 20215 min read
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What’s in an NPE’s Name?
I have always hated my name. Our name is one of our earliest identities. Often provided to us even before we are born. Names can carry an...
Oct 8, 20214 min read
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Watch your NPE language!
“No, that is incidental.” - Dr. Hannibal Lecter, Silence of the Lambs Language matters. The medical literature oozes with terms of...
Oct 2, 20213 min read
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Falling from the Family Tree
You may discover information about yourself that you, as well as your family, did not anticipate….As a user, you take responsibility for...
Sep 19, 20214 min read
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“NPE” is an illness!
Even if the topic seems sensitive or embarrassing, it’s best to be honest and upfront with your health care provider. - National...
Sep 3, 20216 min read
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Nineteen in 1968 and 2021
I don’t know how many of you have parented a nineteen-year-old college student but I am proud to say that we are almost through it. We...
Aug 26, 20215 min read
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The Seven Stages of NPE Grief
Loss and grief is a universal experience. The topic of grief has been written about extensively, most notably by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross...
Aug 6, 20215 min read
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NPE Study Habits
“I have a keen sense of the oblivious.” - Josh Stern The U.S. National Library of Medicine’s website, www.clinicaltrials.gov, is the...
Aug 6, 20213 min read
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This Test HAS to be Wrong
Customer service calls to ancestry testing companies making the claim that the test has to be wrong are common. For better or worse, the...
Jul 22, 20213 min read
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The NPE Princess and Her Royal Court
A lawsuit is a fruit tree planted in a lawyer’s garden. - Italian Proverb I am not an attorney. I view attorneys the same way I view my...
Jul 16, 20214 min read
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NPEs, help your helpers
When truth is replaced by silence, the silence is a lie. - Yevgeny Yevtushenko As a young child, I was diagnosed with kidney disease. How...
Jul 11, 20216 min read
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NPE Guide Opening Note
The response to unexpected discoveries of previously unknown family is different for everyone. While not everyone has the same experience...
Jul 11, 20212 min read
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